People seem to think it perfectly ok to assault your senses with various photos of their body parts immediately after, prior to or within a few encounters of saying hello on a dating site. This as we all know can only end one way. I wasn't looking for a quick hook up so I usually just excused myself from that conversation by blocking these unwanted suitors.
We have all heard the urban myth that happened to a friend's friend or some distant relative or acquaintance about how that couple met online and are now happily coupled or married and I think that's what keeps people like me coming back to online dating. The optimist in me is positive that through all the nonsense and mistakes there will ultimately be someone for me out there and I have just got to be patient, persistent, persevering but most importantly picky and know what my boundaries are. I have got to have a rough idea of what I want and what I don't want in my partner.
Facebook is full of all this truisms about how if you love yourself enough and respect yourself the right person will come along and all that work you've done on yourself will only serve you in your new relationship in a positive and balanced way. I truly believe that and also that good things come to those who proactively wait and the universe has a way of meeting our needs at the right time.
Online dating is fun but definitely not for the easily dissuaded, desperate or imbalanced which unfortunately it seems to attract in large numbers.
Like most things you have got to be in it to form an opinion and judge whether it's right for you.
I have not found my match but I have not given up hope yet so every now and then I still log on to see who has been looking at my profile and if I have any messages and you know just once in a while someone takes my fancy and I make a brave move and send them a message. It is an art form though, knowing who is cuckoo or who you might just become cuckoo about with the right encouragement.
For all the serious online daters out there, may cupid's arrow find it's way to your perfect match. Adios for now, amigos. #Internet